Whether we homeschool or not, taking care of a family is challenging! It can be extra challenging when both mom and dad work.
As mothers, we can get so caught up in caring for our family’s needs, that we forget about our own or push them off till “later”.
I have spoken with some of my friends and acquaintances and many times I hear the same thing.
“I want to make sure my family is taken care of and if that means sacrificing my “me” time then that is the way it is going to be.”
Sure, there are times when as moms we may need to push some of our wind down time off due to circumstances we cannot control. But do we make a regular habit of it?
No matter if you are a stay at home mom or a working mom you must take care of yourself. And do not feel bad about it!
Here are some things I have learned that help me to take better care of myself:
Take A Nap
Now, you might feel like this may make you seem lazy. Not true! There is a lot of research out there that shows napping, even for 20 minutes, can help you to feel alert and rested. If you nap longer than that you may wake up feeling groggy and that is counterproductive. Kids of all ages can benefit from nap time. To get the kids to nap when they were younger I would tell them just to rest in their beds with their eyes closed. It usually worked and as we developed a good routine. When I was working I would nap in my car. Yes, I really did that and set my phone alarm. It helped me tremendously.
Pinterest has some great ideas for hobbies. Create a board and pin all sorts of fun things you would like to attempt and actually do them! Whether you like sewing, painting, crochet, makeup, gardening or anything else get to it. My favorite things are to crochet and experiment with different makeup looks. Some people think you must have an artist’s mind to get creative and that is not true. Take a minute to see what inspires you. You will be surprised what you come up with.
Enjoy Some Fresh Air
Step outside and take a few deep breaths. Getting some sunshine on your face and breathing fresh air can be incredibly renewing. We can get so caught up in the day to day activities that we can forget to enjoy nature. It’s free, beautiful and invigorating.
Whether you like to walk the aisles of your favorite store or go find a quiet area to sit in a bookstore, find some time to just chill out. There are so many things you can do to spend time alone. When I was working I would come home, kiss my kids and tell them I needed my wind down time. I would shower change into my comfy clothes and sit quietly while listening to soft relaxing music. The total time I spent was 20 minutes. I found that after my time I was ready to handle the needs of my family. When you are a stay at home mom it can be harder to draw that line but you have to be creative and just do it. For relaxing music, here is one of the videos I listen to.
Keep In Touch With Friends
This does not include social media. I repeat, this does not include social media. While social media has its uses, it can put limits on real-life relationships. Many times we can assume that since we talk to our friends over the net we really do not need to see them in person. But do you really feel refreshed after checking your social media accounts a 1,000 times per day? There is nothing like meeting a friend for coffee, lunch, margaritas or at a park for a quick walk. Just make sure not to neglect face time.
Healthy Food Choices
Cut down on sugar and junk food. I know lots of people who eat foods that are bad for them simply because they are stressed or bored. Try reaching for healthier foods that give natural energy. Look into probiotics, vitamins and other supplements that will help you stay healthy and in great shape to keep up with the demands of the family. If you’re not sure where to start, check out this website.
Boy oh boy. Just saying the “E” word is tiring. You do not have to go to a gym. There is no shortage of free videos that feature Yoga, Pilates, Cardio or anything else you think of on the internet. Make time in the morning or early afternoon to get in about 15 minutes of movement. Do enough to get your blood pumping and those arteries flexing. Start with a stretch, then movement, then a cool down. Make it a habit and you will even see improvements in your mood. Check out this video for a 15-minute exercise you can do at home.
Get Dressed Everyday
If you’re a working momma then this is not optional. You throw on your clothes and slap some chapstick on and run out of the door. Try setting out your outfit the night before and mapping out which makeup look you will go for and have all the tools set out. Have everything you need ready so you can get dressed without the rush. If you’re a stay at home momma, do the same. Have your clothes laid out and plan the time you need to properly groom. A lot of women are afraid of makeup because they think they will apply it wrong and end up looking like a clown. Today there are so many different types of makeup and natural products that you can easily learn how to apply them. Stay at home mommas might think there is no use for makeup but it really helps lift your mood. Here is a 5-minute makeup look for moms that you can watch.
I hope these tips were helpful for you. If you already take time for yourself share some things you do in the comments.